Happiness
NEW research that shows that choice of partner and life goals drastically affect a person’s satisfaction with life — overturning the popular theory that happiness is largely decided by personality traits moulded early in life and genetic factors.
TIP: Take a moment to read this research article, it’s something to really think about (CLICK).
Problems
What are the three most important problems facing you in your relationship/life/business/career right now where you need to PTO? What is it that keeps you awake at night? What is your #1 problem?
Here are some examples listed by previous members
PROBLEMS:
– to save my marriage;
– to cope with a difficult boss;
– to pay my mortgage;
– to choose between academic courses;
– to overcome fear of using the telephone in selling;
– to speak in public;
– to make new friends;
– to lose weight.
DFQ #17:
PEEL A PROBLEM ORANGE!
Choosing one of the three problem areas you thought of above give yourself an orange to peel. Complete (with, who, when and where) the following sentence:Regarding my (#1 problem) I will PTO ….
Personal finance. We have a house in another town that we rent, but would love to sell. We rent where we live now but would prefer to have our own house, but cannot afford to buy at present. My PTO is to reduce outgoings, but still provide fun and interest for the family.
My problem is GOOD.
How will I face it. Just by acknowledging it and making it a focus I can peel it. Earn more, do more, be more? What is the answer. Keeping moving?
Just looking at the Orange and identifying it needs to be peeled is first step?
Relocating is the problem my wife and I are facing, with a very complex set of reasons for the need to relocate and with a similarly complex set of requirements that a new residence must meet. I’ll PTO by first clearly identifying the reasons for the need to relocate and how they can be answered by relocating. Incorporating these into a list, I will complete that list by identifying what other needs must be dealt with by moving. I’ll ask my wife to focus similarly on these two areas so that we can compare our lists with an eye to prioritizing what are the most important requirements for our new residence. When this is done, I’ll research by computer various possibilities that will meet our requirements. I’ll also ask for input from those who know us best. In addition, I’ll research the process necessary for extracting ourselves from our present situation and begin to initiate that process taking care to balance this against speed of our search for a new place. I’ll be sure to bring my wife into the searching process as different possibilities arise, until we have a concrete idea so that we can actually go and look at different possibilities.
Regarding my problem with regular power blackouts and no proper resource to teach ICT..I will PTO the problem with acquiring help from others by calling them. By living in a remote island I will purchase cheap solar power to power up my PC and acquire information and teaching resources on line.
Regarding my problem of debts. I will PTO the problem by gradually committing part of my wage to offset my debts.
Regarding my problem of not having confidence to speak to people, I will PTO the problem by training to speak will the smaller kids and move up gradually.
Regarding my change at work…being re-assigned to report to an operations manager and a new centre manager …one and two level up reporting line changes ) I will PTO ….
with: the current procedures we have in place and the ones we are devising for the new work we are being made responsible for
who: the people who report directly to me; those who are providing information, skills and operational resources and assistance; my new managers.
when: every day.
where: in the call centre teams area.
Regarding my #1 problem which is: “I have not focused on writing for religious periodicals,” I will PTO this situation by doing specific things.
I will make a list of topics with which I have had insight and/or healing experiences.
I will study a specific article on “writing for the periodicals” for direction and key elements that can make the “writing sing.”
I will write from humble inspiration rather than personal acknowledgement.
I will begin today to set aside time every day to peel this orange.
Regarding my health I will PTO by completing the study of ketogenic diets, within two weeks, and start implementing the changes required on a daily basis,as I come across more information. Devote 30 minutes daily at my desk to reading on this topic only, over the two weeks.
Regarding reaching my full potential professionally, throughout the coming Year I will continue to look for new opportunities to work with people,organisations and learning materials both inside and outside of my current working environment that can assist me to develop my abilities to think and operate at a strategic level.
Cancelling the credit is our family’s number 1 problem. My husband and I should do it as soon as possible, throughout this year. I’m trying to find new ways of earning money beside tutoring. I try to do my best to take advantage of all the concepts and techniques I am studying here to improve each sphere of my life.
Regarding my (#1 problem) I will PTO …by continuing to show interest and encourage, yet not interfere.