#062 DFQ





START: The first of the SOT tools for thinking

Taking a new step, uttering a new word, is what people fear most.
Fyodor Dostoevsky

What is starting?

It can be very difficult to start things. Once you get started there is momentum and feedback but getting started can be difficult. Most races are lost not at the finishing line but at the starting blocks. Why? Because most people never even enter the race! They just never get started. Wasn’t it Lao-Tzu who pointed out that all epic journeys begin with a single step.

The Start of the Sale = Customer Attention

What is the start of the sale? The start of the sale is Customer Attention. Before a customer can say YES or NO their attention must be on your offer. Fred Herman, author of KISS: Keep It Simple Salesman used to say, First, you’ve got to get the customer’s attention!

Yet, most of the time the vast majority of customers’ attention is not focused on your offer at all. Whenever, at any particular moment, the customer’s attention is not on your offer then there can be no hope of a sale.

The Check Move

To manage customer attention I designed a new unit of measurement. In my book NewSell, which became a best-seller in Australia, I designed a new unit of measurement which I called: Check.

Check, or, the Check move

A Check move (taken from the game of chess) is simply a customer contact of any kind. This has all been revised and in my new book WOMBAT Selling: How To Sell By Word of Mouth and you can request an ebook copy here with my compliments.

For years it’s been a common belief in selling that most sales were lost at the close. In other words, salespeople were missing sales because they were not ‘closing’ them. Our research showed that this is a grand illusion. The whole issue of ‘closing the sale’ is a nonsense and I have offered a reward of $100,000 to the first person who can prove the salesperson closes the sale.

  • FACT: The decision to buy is an electro-chemical event in the brain of the customer and the salesperson does NOT control that event.
  • FACT: 99% of sales are not missed at the close at all but at the start.
  • FACT: It’s the failure to start the sale – to contact a customer by phone,
  • by snail mail, by email, by fax or in person – that is the source of most lost business.
  • FACT: 99% of check moves have never yet been made.

Noting their check moves (customer contacts) helps salespeople keep a measurement of how much energy they are putting out into the marketplace. Focusing on their check moves helps them: 1. to raise their energy level and avoid wasting time, and 2. to stop their obsession with ‘the close’ and all the archaic manipulation tactics that customers hate and which have given the selling profession such a bad image and poor ethical reputation.

Focusing on the start–check–rather than the ‘close’, reduces the rejection and disappointment salespeople feel which so effects their energy levels. Check allows them to initiate many more customer contacts.

This, of course, always leads to better sales results because the only move that can turn a prospective customer into a client is CHECK which is enough to make it the most important move in business. As Woody Allen said, “80% of success is showing up.”


How to start? Most plans are full of details on how to get to the finishing line but contain little or nothing about how to get to the starting blocks. Yet nothing happens until someone STARTS something. For many years in business we have had MBO or Management By Objectives. Perhaps we also need MBS or Management By Starting.

Many management gurus write books about “Goal-Setting”. Maybe they should also write books about “Start-Getting” since, most of the time, most people never get started.

To Start is the fundamental creative act. To change a switch from the OFF position to the ON position is to start something and means something has now been created. It has been said that the most important skill in writing a book is sitting down at the keyboard – getting started.

To Start is a Strategic Act

Strategy is about control. If you are in control you are in a strategic position, if you are out of control, you aren’t. Starting is a strategic act because we can control starting but we cannot control finishing.

Once we start, many other factors come into play: other peoples reactions, the weather, consequences and the unexpected. These may prevent us from finishing. But if we are good at starting then we can always start again, and again, and again. It may be that finishing is simply the repetitive act of starting, and starting again, and starting again, until we declare that we have “finished”.

Some people are good at starting. Others are good at the follow-up. Some are good at both. What are you better at? Do you see starting as a skill? How can you improve your starting ability? Is it worth it? What would be a better skill to develop than starting? How do you start to start? To start or not to start? To flip the switch or not to flip the switch? To start is to be! I start therefore I am. He who hesitates to start is lost. Start before you leap. etc.

Where to start?

Anywhere is a good place to start. Sir Yehudi Menuhin, who was a tutor at my college, started playing the violin at home when he was four. Home is a good place to start. He made his professional debut, when he was seven, in San Francisco. San Francisco is a good place to start.

In 1962 he started a boarding school for musically talented children, at Stoke d’Abernon, near London. Boarding school is a good place to start. Sir Yehudi’s son Jeremy made his debut as a pianist, in Gstaad, in 1965. Dare I say it – Gstaad is a good place to start!

Is there a best place to start? Why? Is there a worst place to start? Why?

Why start things?

When you start you begin to overcome inertia. Inertia is the enemy of starting with its lack of feedback. Once you escape from the spell of inertia you begin to get feedback. Feedback is the food of decision-making and the food of design. You can assess feedback and react to your assessment. Do I like it? Do I not like it? Do I want more? Do I want less?

We are much better at reacting than at proacting. By creating feedback it gives us something to react to and so we can make a decision and proceed. A simple way to create feedback is to start something … anything.

When to Start?

There is really only one time to start and that time is the moment called … Now! We need to create as many Now! moments for starting as possible. Just suppose a Now! moment is one second. In other words, let’s define the time it takes to start something as one second. Here are some examples:

  • How long does it take to pick up the telephone? One second.
  • How long does it take to press ‘send’ on an email? One second.
  • How long does it take to start to get up and go for a walk. One second.
  • How long does it take to start a Yahoo search on the net. One second.
  • How long does it take to say “No”? One second.
  • How long does it take to start your laptop? One second.
  • How long does it take to start to contact a customer. One second.

There are an unlimited number of things you can start to do in the quite comfortable space of one second. How many Now! moments are there in a day? I’ll save you the trouble of the maths. It’s 86,400.

Unfortunately we waste most of our Now! moments because we squander most of our time immobilised by inertia because of our Western fear of making “mistakes”.


Mistake-phobia is the morbid fear of making a mistake. It’s an aversion to ever being wrong. It comes from our medieval habit of looking at the world through the concept of “right” and “wrong” (not shared by other cultures like the Chinese, for example).

Compared to the Chinese our mistake-phobia causes us to lose countless opportunities on a daily basis in Western countries like Australia, Britain, France and America and may be one of the biggest single blocks to our increased productivity and potential economic success.

Have a go!

One way to cure mistake-phobia is to accelerate our willingness to have a go, to get started and get busy. When you have a go, one of two things happens:

  • 1. you make a mistake, or
  • 2. you make an un-mistake.

To the brainuser, both these types of feedback are useful.

If you are not afraid of mistakes, if you are not a mistake-phobiac, then you simply assess the feedback and start again. If it was a mistake you try something different. If it was an un-mistake then you can keep going. These are like loops that can be called:

  • 1. IF (mistake) THEN (start again) ELSE (proceed), or
  • 2. IF (un-mistake) THEN (proceed).

Both these outcomes are useful results of starting, they just have different values. Inertia may have no value at all.

This is how we have taught computers to be intelligent. They keep doing something. Anything. They keep busy going through the loops and learning. This is how we learned as children until we were taught to dread making a mistake. If computers were as afraid of making mistakes as we are then they would take as long as us to learn. But they don’t.

Computers are not afraid of mistakes and are rapidly catching up. Today’s cars have more computing power than the whole world had 40 years ago. They are becoming less ‘computer-assisted cars’ and more like ‘driveable computers’. Where will computers be in the next 40 years? In the next 400 years?

Lazy Critic

Lazy critics suffer from mistake-phobia. The PTV-infected brain will turn the most amazing cognitive somersaults to avoid being ‘wrong’. When a brainuser tries to creates something, s/he never really knows what will happen. There is always risk and uncertainty. Risk is enough to keep the mistake-phobiac hiding in inertia.

But, remember, nothing happens until someone STARTS something.

Soren Kierkegaard said, “To dare is to lose one’s footing momentarily. To not dare is to lose oneself.”

Do you prefer the starter or the critic? How do you feel about mistakes? Are you comfortable with them? Or do you fear mistakes? Can you take a risk?

Starting by Asking

To ask is one way to start. Mrs. Robert Lee Kidd started something simply by walking into the office of the San Francisco Examiner on May 2, 1962 and placing her advertisement which asked for the following:

I don’t want my husband to die in the gas chamber for a crime he did not commit. I will therefore offer my services for 10 years as a cook, maid or housekeeper to any leading attorney who will defend him and bring about his vindication.

Her husband had been tried and convicted of the murder of an elderly antiques dealer, Albert Clarke. Mr. Kidd’s bloody fingerprints were found on the murder weapon, an ornate sword. But Mrs. Kidd had insisted her husband was home with her on the night of the crime.

One of San Francisco’s most eminent attorney’s, Vincent Hallinan responded and proved in court that the sword was not the murder weapon after all. Subsequently both husband and wife went free. Hallinan graciously refused to take up Mrs. Kidd’s offer of 10 years service.

Ask and receive! Asking is one way of starting.

Every day, thousands of people start something by putting their ad in the paper or online asking for something eg a job, a house, a vote, a sale, a friend etc. By asking, there are literally an unlimited number of ways of getting started.

When did you last put an ad in the paper or online? What happened? What other ways can you ask? What did you ask for yesterday? What will you ask for today? What will you ask for tomorrow?

Getting Started

The hardest part about getting started is … getting started! This is a circular trap that is difficult to get out of and is the cause of a lot of inertia. The way I get started is to write down a list of 10 things I can do to get started, then I just choose the ones I like.

When it comes to the power of STARTING no-one said it better than the German thinker, Johann Wolfgang von Goethe, said: Until one is committed, there is hesitancy, the chance to draw back, always ineffectiveness. Concerning all acts of initiative and creation, there is one elementary truth the ignorance of which kills countless ideas and splendid plans: that the moment one definitely commits oneself, then providence moves too. All sorts of things occur to help one that would never otherwise have occurred. A whole stream of events issues from the decision, raising in one’s favor all manner of unforeseen incidents, meetings and material assistance which no man could have dreamed would have come his way. Whatever you can do or dream you can, begin it. Boldness has genius, power and magic in it. Begin it now.

DFQ #062:

How to get started:
– write down TEN things you wish you could get started on.
– write down TEN things you can do to get started on number1 on your list.
– what can you ask for to start something?
– write an ad you can place to support this request.
– if you wish, you can place the ad and discuss the results.

239 thoughts on “#062 DFQ

  1. 1. Understand what I need to do to secure a senior executive role
    2. Improve my fitness
    3. Double my salary
    4. Improve my golf
    5. Sell my existing property
    6. Buy a better property
    7. Dive with great whites
    8. Spend more time with my family
    9. Write a book
    10. Start painting again

    1. Research what skills and qualifications are needed for the role
    2. Identify the two skills have least experience in
    3. Identify courses and self-study options to improve knowledge and skill set
    4. Sign up to relevant courses once identified
    5. Learn more about the industry I want to work in
    6. Contact and talk to other senior executives
    7. Research current opportunities
    8. Expand my professional contact network
    9. Publish management related articles
    10. Contribute to on-line executive forums

  2. Things to get started on…
    1. Get in better physical shape
    2. Learn German
    3. Photoread more books
    4. An NLP business
    5. Write another book
    6. Find more income streams
    7. Travel
    8. Increase Income X10
    9. Actively practice what I have learned
    10. Take a vacation

    10 Things I can do to get started on getting in better physical shape
    1. Start tracking my activity and food intake
    2. Talk to people about my goal
    3. Post a tracker in my home office
    4. Implement the 12 week year–so there is intense focus
    5. Schedule the activities I plan to do–Walking, Cardio, Strength and Strength
    6. Plan my meals
    7. Schedule time to meditate
    8. Schedule time to relax
    9. Get 6+ hours of sleep a night
    10. Get started on the above

    Can ask for support from my family.

    Need to figure out the ad.

  3. At present, there is only ONE thing I really desire to start – the very first NHIS Community Based Health Insurance Programme for a rural community under the management if my organisation.

    I shall take the appropriate steps to engage the community to set up a Mutual Health Association by discussing with the head of the community before 10AM tomorrow morning.

  4. 1.Start writting again
    2.Reconstruct my diet
    3.Start an internet side business
    4.Plan a vacation to Spain for Summer 2015
    5.Get back on my supplements
    6.Increase my frequency in going to the gym
    7.Increase my water intake
    8.Walk everyday
    9.To leave my work on time so I can enjoy more time with my family
    10. Finish the books I started

    2.Keep a note pad on hand to write down thoughts
    3.speak thoughts into a recorder
    4.dedicate some time every week specifically for uninterrupted writting
    5.Educate myself on how to write a book

  5. 1. Be a better thinker
    2. Exercise every day
    3. Keep my diet healthy
    4. Relate with people for new business
    5. Study how to start an online business
    6. Be more productive in my job as a salesman
    7. Visit my family abroad in the next three months
    8. finish my buteyko training
    9. Find a volunteer activity
    10. Learn how to create and find opportunities.

  6. -have longtime investment.-compose my intergrity.-be fear in all i do.-To have loyalty among the world of people.-to be successful in all i intended doing.-to be compassionate with my school of thinking.-work every day to expatiate my ability.-enjoy making friends.-keep teaching the less privilage in the society.-meet with good people and from tham.

  7. I understand the purpose of this DFQ.

    I can write down twenty things that I wish I could get started on.

    However, that elephant in the room, haven’t muster enough courage to talk about it.

  8. 1 Exercise More
    2 Healthy eating – Vegan
    3 Start a new Enterprise
    4 Improve Relationships
    5 Book next family adventure
    6 Read 1 more book a week
    7 Finish my unfinished studies
    8 Increase Income X 10
    9 Be financially independant 10 years sooner
    10 Keep on with SOT Training

    1 Exercise 4 times a week for 1 hour
    2 Walk every day around the Suburb and talk to my neighbours
    3 Cycle more – 3 X a week out of my Suburb
    4 More weight training in my back yard
    5 Increase Protein intake and reduce calories
    6 Enjoy food more – try to become Vegan
    7 Walk in the outdoors – enjoy the bush and the city
    8 Enjoy the weather -the sunshine the wind and the rain
    9 Enjoy growing things in my garden
    10 Work Out on the way to Work – climb stairs – take a walk – don’t get a Taxi.

    Stuff Starts to Happen when you Start to do stuff…..

  9. 1. Clear out wardrobe.
    2. Update CV.
    3. Complete client project.
    4. Plan trip itinerary
    5. Put in insurance claim.
    6. Make police complaint.
    7. Complete SOT lessons.
    8. Make eye Dr appointment.
    9. Complete business plan.
    10. Write book.

    1. Schedule some time to do it.
    2. Identify clothes not worn for 12 months.
    3. Find charity to accept cloths.
    4. Get a friend to help.
    5. Re-asses attachment to some items of clothing.
    6. Throw out old suitcase.

    I probably only need these 6.

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